I don’t know when it happened, and maybe it’s just me, becoming ever so cynical, but when did romance die? For real though? I’ve been on a few dates with this guy recently and everything seemed to be going well. We went out to a cute spot for cocktails, had dinner at a trendy restaurant and even made dinner together. Cute right? And then today, I get this text message: “Let’s have sex at your place on Wednesday. I should be free around 9 or 9:30.”
Maybe I’m just being overly sensitive, but come on! There are so many things wrong here:
- Scheduled sex. Since when is there a timeline on when to be intimate in a relationship? I understand that you sometimes need to make time for it, but I have only been on a few dates with this guy. I don’t even know if I want to be in a relationship with him.
- Who says I’m free on Wednesday? Just because it works for your schedule does not mean that I am available for your booty call!
- There is absolutely nothing romantic or flirtatious in this message. Like I said, we’ve only been on a few dates. This message is both bold and cold.
I miss the days when relationships happened organically. When you met someone, went on a few dates, got to know each other and sex and intimacy would happen in a moment of passion, not on a scheduled date or time, it just happened. Needless to say, I’m a little turned off.
Dating apps like Bumble and Tinder tend to remove the romance from dating. I get it. I get the convenience, the instant gratification, but for someone looking for a little more than that, they don’t necessarily cater to that demographic. Alright, frustrated rant over. Onward to other (better) things.